I am a Healer for Healers and for You
I work with people who are emotionally and spiritually exhausted and suffering from burnout. Are you curious or distressed by your night time dreams? Are you suffering from nightmares? I specialize in exploring dreams to help us heal.
Are you devastated by grief and the loss of a loved one?
We have many ways of being, different identities often shaped by our roles in life and by the experiences and seasons of our lives.
Are you a caregiver or a friend who gives freely and also tends to your own needs? Are you the healer who can hold your clients with wisdom and clarity, and with what seems like limitless compassion and insight? Are you a person who, perhaps, is not in an officially named healing profession, yet are passionate to contribute healing to the universe you touch through your business and work? Are you filled with trust, rooted in your own strength, purpose, and calling?
I do hope so, but I also understand that the life of a healer and a helper is rarely simple.
Maintaining the mental energy and the spiritual connection that sustains you can be such a challenge. Plus, it’s so hard to balance giving to others and your own self-care when you know there’s such need out there. It’s hard to say no, even to slow down, in the face of all the suffering in our world. It can feel impossible to keep serving and smiling and believing. Maybe you’re exhausted, drained, spent.
I’m Royce Fitts, Spiritual Counselor, Dream Worker, and an ordained minister with decades of experience as a clinical psychotherapist. I understand this beautiful tension that exists at the heart of a healer’s life.
Depending on the moment I find myself in, I am fluid and firm, full of hope and despair, ready to help and needing help. Sound familiar?
Maybe I’m something like you.
This may sound strange, but in the seasonings of my life, in arriving at a place that defines, as best as possible at any one moment, who I am and how I can contribute to the goodness in the world and be a compassionate healer, I often call myself an atheist-agnostic-believer-dreamer. (How’s that for an answer to “who are you today?”)
These terms may seem like terrific contradictions and hard to comprehend. Maybe these terms are even offensive to some – though, I don’t intend them to be so – but I think, if we are honest, we all carry many identities within us. Perhaps you’ll see some of your own experience in these definitions, changeable and as fluid as they are. When I’m faced with questions about how to balance caring for others and my own self-care, and when I look at all the pain, cruelty and woundedness in the world, I look to my understanding of myself, and of the universe, to see my way through.
May I explain this fluidity?
Atheist:When I experience the anguish of pain and suffering in my soul, in the soul of the world, in the universe of “all that is”, I cannot, in those moments, believe in the existence of god or goddess. How empty our worlds – and words – are, empty of the divine in all its forms(s). It’s not cruel to state that we have no divine(s). This is “just is.” We are alone. We are random in universes of randomness. I take heart in what is called natural theology or philosophy, concluding that there is no such thing as the super-natural. No divine intervention. No miracles. No one with whom to plead for one and, no one to thank, for that matter. We are what we are. We are what we get. We are what we give.
I am peaceful in this knowledge of the nothingness of god/dess. I am not flaming with any fundamentalist fire that demands I fight the belief systems of those who do have some version of God. Ultimately, our life and universes are about being – being you, being me, experiencing the beingness of all. We have mystery, lots of mystery. We’ll probably never understand it all. And that’s OK. Hopefully, for our common good, we will understand more and more and make less and less mystery. And, I do know this: we have room, lots of room, for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics and healing.
I must be real, must be honest: I do not know, and yet, I think I know. I experience the curses and blessings of seeing all sides of issues. I am blind and deeply insightful, all at the same time. I have room to believe that there is no god/dess. I have room to believe that, maybe, there is, or are, divine(s). I celebrate mystery and suspect that within mystery is some form of loving divinity. There is so much I do not know and yet, I do know this: we have room, lots of room for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics and healing.
In turn, I affect god/dess. I am within god/dess. Everything I experience, “all that is”, is experienced by god/dess. Planets blowing up: god/dess feels. New leaves on new trees: god/dess feels. Discoveries of medicine: god/dess feels. Everything of everything is experienced by god/dess. God/dess yearns for wholeness, beauty, adventure, and even seeks to bring it about, nudges it along as best as is godly possible, never stopping, always willing for creation to be re-creation, for the goodness and healing of all.
This is mystery. I am lovingly mystical and embrace mysticism and mystery with joy. I experience Jesus as my personal, mysterious, and mystical friend. The Jesus story inspires me as no other story! His compassion, courage, tenderness, fireceness for justice and love offers healing for all time. Jesus is one of the many, many whitecaps on the ocean of creation. Leading, pleading, challenging me, and all creation to re-create into what we know, and we do know this: we have room, lots of room for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics, and healing.
When it comes to dreams, my own health and wholeness – and yours, and that of all beings across all our universes – are at stake. We must pay attention to the nightmares within or we will create the nightmares without (yes, I am talking about things like wars and rumors of wars, hate, suffering, greed and projections of evil). I must dream, we all must dream. Dreams come to offer wholeness, growth, insight and healing. And, we do know this: in our dreams, we have room, lots of room for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics, and healing.
I invite you to engage with me at one or all of these levels. My work as a healer who is here to heal the healers is intended to greet you wherever you are in your journey as a dreamer and a being trying to work out your own relationship to the spirit of health, healing, wholeness and wisdom.
I have nearly 40 years of seasoned experience as a human relations professional, psychotherapist and theologian working in the areas of spiritual and emotional health.
- Doctor of Ministry Degree in Pastoral Care and Counseling with a focus on Individual, Couples and Family Psychotherapy from Christian Theological Seminary www.cts.edu, Indianapolis, Indiana (1992).
- Ordained and Certified as a Dream Work Minister and Facilitator through the Marin Institute for Projective Dream Work, Fairfield, California (founded by my mentor and dream teacher, the late Dr. Jeremy Taylor).
- Spiritual Care Professional in The Association for Clinical Pastoral Education www.acpe.edu
- Clinical Fellow in The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy www.aamft.org
U.S. State Licenses:
- Marriage and Family Therapist #35000903A, Indiana
- Mental Health practitioner #1065; Certified Marriage and Family Therapist #019, Nebraska
- Marriage and Family Therapist #108, Wyoming
- Marriage and Family Therapist #0001714, Colorado
- Marriage and Family Therapist #CMFO223842, New Mexico